Hi there, Reader:
Happy holidays! I was thinking about all the money being spent and the expectations on young men today. Your not only expected to go to college or university, your also expected to pay for it. When you graduate your expected to be debt free. First, be kind to yourself and trust yourself that you can do it.
As I thought about it I realized one of the most difficult transitions in life is from teen to young adulthood to manhood. Not really sure if that is what it is called. However, what I do know. is expectations of others can make life more difficult than what it needs to be. If I thought I was something great I would of taken back the advice I gave my own children thinking I would be with them all the time and shared this with then.
1. As soon as possible open up a savings account. This one would be all yours independent of your parents saving account for you. It doesn't have to be thousands of dollars. It just has to be a place you can place money into it each month. I would start off with 10-20% of your pay check. I understand your only making minimum wage. The reality is isn't 10-20 what you would pay someone as a tip? Why not pay yourself?
2. Figure out a monthly, weekly and daily budget. There are many books that teach people how to do this. Don't give up if the first one doesn't work. Try again until you find one you can stick with.
3. Your parents had a plan for your life and now you are on your own trying to figure out if those plans are what you really wanted. It's okay, just keep moving forward and you will figure it out. I promise you will figure out. So many of lives challenges are related to money. Those that have and those that have not. You just have to plan...that is how those people have. There is nothing with possessions on earth. What is important is that you have integrity as you create yours.
4. After college or university you can devise a way to get out of debt. You have accomplished your goals and on to the next. You might have to have debt to accomplish your goal. The first is to get out of debt, so you know you can. It is to understand that you can pay off your debt if you have to. Then the next goal you set you'll know you can accomplish, because you accomplished the first. Parent want children to attend college, it develops a seance of independence. and accomplishment. It builds the child from childhood like dependence to self confidence and self reliance. Didn't attend college, no worries, the concepts are still thee same.
5. Develop skills that you will need. Marketplace Skills , I believe is what they are called Most business experience will have you do things that will develop you as a person and as business person. Understand they might not all be good experiences.
6. The first thing on thee list to own should be a house. It could be a modern flat or town house. Why? All of us need a place to live. Life is about family and friends, however the truth is friends will only help you for so many years. If you own your own place then you don't have to relay on other people. This will get you through many lonely nights...it's okay we all have them. Sometimes making the right choices for ourselves means letting go of the fun things we want to do. Those fun things create memories, owning your own home creates security.
Those are my six best thoughts of advice. If you don't know how to accomplish this then seek the advice of a professional financial planner.
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Saturday, December 24, 2016
Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Sitting In Court
Hi there, Reader:
I was sitting in court today waiting to pay a ticket, that was a correction and the date read 12/24, however thee court thought it said 10/24 and because I didn;t appear in count on time I have to pay a fine.
There are many lessons we learn in life and one of those is a busy life, doesn't justify putting something off that one should take care of right away. The best thing was that it is a highly efficient court that I was at. There are some lessons I thought that I could share with my readers.
One I was off my phone, off my computer took a piece of paper with me to write down any ideas for new blogs I wanted to write. I discovered that I focus so much on what I am doing that everything and everyone around me disappears. Therefore, when my number was called I missed it and had to wait for the next round.
Here is what I learned that might be helpful.
1. Be prepared have all your information with you. Papers, pen and paperwork organized. The court respects and organized. person.
2. When the clerk starts using the words sir, madman and Miss or Mr or any formal word other than your name, take note they are getting frustrated with what you are saying. reword your sentence and start again. Think is she misunderstanding me or is this an you have to accept the moment because it is a court ruling.
3. Accept there are things we can change and those we can't. Even though it is not what you would have chosen their comes a point that you just have to accept it.
4. Sit quietly and listen while you wait. I was listening to my inner self and ignoring the outside world. Therefore, I didn't hear the clerk call me in booth 8. I had to wait for booth 9. What we think is best isn't always best.
5.In life we have to have thee difference to know the difference. Some people deal with it with medication, others prayer and others choose other ways, we have to accept not everyone does things the same way. As long as it achieves the same goals the route in which you got there doesn't matter, does it?
Either way the goal is to finish the race, knowing we did the best we could with what we know. Understanding our own limitations and faults. Be blessed knowing you did the best you could .
I was sitting in court today waiting to pay a ticket, that was a correction and the date read 12/24, however thee court thought it said 10/24 and because I didn;t appear in count on time I have to pay a fine.
There are many lessons we learn in life and one of those is a busy life, doesn't justify putting something off that one should take care of right away. The best thing was that it is a highly efficient court that I was at. There are some lessons I thought that I could share with my readers.
One I was off my phone, off my computer took a piece of paper with me to write down any ideas for new blogs I wanted to write. I discovered that I focus so much on what I am doing that everything and everyone around me disappears. Therefore, when my number was called I missed it and had to wait for the next round.
Here is what I learned that might be helpful.
1. Be prepared have all your information with you. Papers, pen and paperwork organized. The court respects and organized. person.
2. When the clerk starts using the words sir, madman and Miss or Mr or any formal word other than your name, take note they are getting frustrated with what you are saying. reword your sentence and start again. Think is she misunderstanding me or is this an you have to accept the moment because it is a court ruling.
3. Accept there are things we can change and those we can't. Even though it is not what you would have chosen their comes a point that you just have to accept it.
4. Sit quietly and listen while you wait. I was listening to my inner self and ignoring the outside world. Therefore, I didn't hear the clerk call me in booth 8. I had to wait for booth 9. What we think is best isn't always best.
5.In life we have to have thee difference to know the difference. Some people deal with it with medication, others prayer and others choose other ways, we have to accept not everyone does things the same way. As long as it achieves the same goals the route in which you got there doesn't matter, does it?
Either way the goal is to finish the race, knowing we did the best we could with what we know. Understanding our own limitations and faults. Be blessed knowing you did the best you could .
Friday, December 16, 2016
Christmas Placesettings for Men
Yes, I too rejoice with all you hubbies, says The Lord. Rejoice on the beauty of being single. How fun it is on Christmas Day....you don't have children to wake you up and ask you if Santa has been to the house. You get to eat by yourself, spend endless hours by yourself, think by yourself. No nagging wife with a honey do list. Or children with an I want this, I want that, give me this, give me that.
Your free!!!! If you want put your tree on the table.... The women can't ask you to dance on the table or to bed anymore for that matter. Get the courage this Christmas to box up all the goodies and put them away.
Here are my rules of editquettee for being single.
1. Don't tell anyone. ( It's really non of their business, unless you want them to know.)
2. When you want to do what you want to. Grace and forgiveness are equal and isn't it what made you single to begin with. Someone did something they wanted to and one of you didn't want to.
3. Whenever you feel sad for yourself, set yourself a beautiful placesetting and thank The Lord. That you have one...
Be Bless!
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Your free!!!! If you want put your tree on the table.... The women can't ask you to dance on the table or to bed anymore for that matter. Get the courage this Christmas to box up all the goodies and put them away.
Here are my rules of editquettee for being single.
1. Don't tell anyone. ( It's really non of their business, unless you want them to know.)
2. When you want to do what you want to. Grace and forgiveness are equal and isn't it what made you single to begin with. Someone did something they wanted to and one of you didn't want to.
3. Whenever you feel sad for yourself, set yourself a beautiful placesetting and thank The Lord. That you have one...
Be Bless!
Any questions book an appointment. I plan meetings, I plan Weddings, I plan Events, I Do love what I do. MK Pure Diamond Events.
Friday, December 9, 2016
My Bucket List
Hi there, Readers;
Have you ever attended a party where everyone is married, or divorced and have a list ready of why they are so good. The married ones talk about marriage as if it is the saving grace upon their lives. The newly single talk about their lives as though starting over is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to them. As if they had total control over their lives. Isn't it funny how no matter what are you are you have a bucket list.
The young say I want...when we all know they are just the cutest local app that ever happen. Even in the industry that I am in we have trends. The one trend that has never stopped is having a bucket list. It doesn't matter what age you are one always has a bucket list. Male or female if your human you have a list. With that said here are some of the items on the bucket list I have encounter.
1. To have a million dollars by by the age of 25.
2. To own my own home.
3. To own my own car.
4. To be respected not only by my peers, who cares if they don't respect me, what's more import is if I don't respect myself.
5. To own a motorcycle. The natural progression of manhood. Tricycle, bicycle, motorcycle. The joys of manhood once they learn to ride, they have the skills for a lifetime.
7. Education, this one I have yet to understand how man see it. Some a nessisity other see it as a luxury. Personally, I feel male or female we all have to have an education at daily living live and the choices we make.
8. Savings, what is more important. What is more important going out with friends or having a savings account? Are your friends paying for your daily living expenses.
9. Now the biggest temptation of them all. Travel. How cute am I that I can flash my pretty eyes and get you to pay for my travel expenses? You laugh at me now but how many of you have that in your bucket list. The goal of young manhood is to see how many things you'll let me get away with. STOP! Does this apply to relationships?
10. Relationships don't always develop into marriage, however someday I hope to have a wife and children. What will be left? My best or my worst? Take time to put that in your bucket list. What exactly is it you hope to bring to the relationship?
Non the less the goal of most man who wed is to help and be helped. What is greater the sence of self or the sence of those who they wed. It is difficult to understand the human psychology of a man who has a greater purpose in life then self. With the desire to help others one helps oneself.
Have you ever attended a party where everyone is married, or divorced and have a list ready of why they are so good. The married ones talk about marriage as if it is the saving grace upon their lives. The newly single talk about their lives as though starting over is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to them. As if they had total control over their lives. Isn't it funny how no matter what are you are you have a bucket list.
The young say I want...when we all know they are just the cutest local app that ever happen. Even in the industry that I am in we have trends. The one trend that has never stopped is having a bucket list. It doesn't matter what age you are one always has a bucket list. Male or female if your human you have a list. With that said here are some of the items on the bucket list I have encounter.
1. To have a million dollars by by the age of 25.
2. To own my own home.
3. To own my own car.
4. To be respected not only by my peers, who cares if they don't respect me, what's more import is if I don't respect myself.
5. To own a motorcycle. The natural progression of manhood. Tricycle, bicycle, motorcycle. The joys of manhood once they learn to ride, they have the skills for a lifetime.
7. Education, this one I have yet to understand how man see it. Some a nessisity other see it as a luxury. Personally, I feel male or female we all have to have an education at daily living live and the choices we make.
8. Savings, what is more important. What is more important going out with friends or having a savings account? Are your friends paying for your daily living expenses.
9. Now the biggest temptation of them all. Travel. How cute am I that I can flash my pretty eyes and get you to pay for my travel expenses? You laugh at me now but how many of you have that in your bucket list. The goal of young manhood is to see how many things you'll let me get away with. STOP! Does this apply to relationships?
10. Relationships don't always develop into marriage, however someday I hope to have a wife and children. What will be left? My best or my worst? Take time to put that in your bucket list. What exactly is it you hope to bring to the relationship?
Non the less the goal of most man who wed is to help and be helped. What is greater the sence of self or the sence of those who they wed. It is difficult to understand the human psychology of a man who has a greater purpose in life then self. With the desire to help others one helps oneself.
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